The Queen of Our Own Lives
Idealism and fantasy go hand-in-hand.
In both,
we deny hard, cold reality
for something soft and sweet to land on,
but just like candy that promises brief enjoyment,
fantasy can kill us on the deepest level if we don't keep it in check.
As little girls,
we were taught through fairy tales
that we needed a prince
or a knight in shining armor to save us,
and that without him we were powerless.
We dreamt of the day the prince
would come to rescue us from our pain,
whisking us off to some faraway land
of peace, harmony, and abundance
where we would never have to worry or fear again.
We put him on a pedestal,
projecting onto him all the things
that we wanted him to be,
perhaps all the things
that our daddy never could be.
We created a false fantasy idealized image
of him that may not have included
anything of who he truly was.
We didn’t realize of course
that one day we would be
in for a rude awakening…
that he would fall off that pedestal,
and fall off hard.
When he did,
we awakened to the fact that
not only was he not who we
so desperately wanted and needed him to be,
but that he was the exact opposite…
a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
There was a good reason
that he was more than ready to whisk us,
the damsel in distress off to his lair to “save” us…
his true desire on some level
was to imprison us and keep us as his possession.
We see that we lost ourselves completely
and that we lost our power
by thinking that we had none to begin with.
We gave our power over
to someone else to “take care of us”
not realizing that we were giving away
our most precious asset…our sovereignty.
It can be terrifying
when we wake up to the truth
of how we have disempowered
and victimized ourselves,
but this is a true moment
of awakening and liberation.
At this moment,
we begin the process
of calling all of our power back to ourselves.
As we do this, we destroy the pedestal
so that we never put anyone above us again,
and we take the throne as the Queen of our own lives.
As the Queen of our own domain,
we learn to live with our eyes wide open,
with radical self-honesty,
and in alignment with our true,
authentic power.
Now we see that the only one
who could have ever saved us
is ourselves and we become the rulers of our own lives.